by Laura Passard Yurko
I've started a new daily reflection practice. I'm using the book A Year of Living Consciously by Gay Hendricks. I read a portion of his book Conscious Loving a few years ago and it completely changed my marriage. So, needless to say, I have high hopes for this daily practice.
So far, the book does not disappoint as the reflection for this past Sunday has really stuck with me and I thought it would be a good one to share with you - particularly as we begin this New Year, making our resolutions and such. It's a good time to consider just how we are spending our time and energy. This reflection got me thinking about the things I complain about (i.e.
certain chores, not having enough time to [insert healthy activity here], issues in relationships, lack of sleep) and whether I was unconsciously making the choice to keep those things a part of my life, thus holding me back from what really mattered or even identifying what really mattered. No solid answers just yet, I'm still reflecting, discerning, trying and changing, but I did make a point to write this post which is something that I've struggled to do in the past because of every excuse in the book. So, that's progress, right?
Hope this is something that can inspire you, too, to make choices for what you really want to commit to.
Happy New Year!
Excerpt from A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose by Gay Hendricks.
"Grow up, and that is a terribly hard thing to do. It is much easier to skip it and go from one childhood to another." -- F. Scott Fitzgerald
HOW TO KNOW WHAT YOU'RE COMMITTED TO
It is simple to find out what you're committed to -- just look at the results you're creating. A friend was complaining to me that he'd spent a great deal of time and energy hassling with the IRS during the past year. I asked, "Why do you suppose you're so committed to spending your time that way?" "But I'm not committed to that," he began to argue. Then a sheepish smile came over his face as he got the point. Later he phoned with this insight: "If I use my energy fighting the IRS, I don't have to do the tough work of creating some new income streams." Many of you are gripped by the loony idea that your intentions are different from the results you create. It simplifies life enormously the moment you accept that the results you create are your unconscious intentions made visibly manifest.
A CONSCIOUS LIVING PRACTICE FOR TODAY
Select a particular issue that's troubling you. For example, you might select "squabbling with my spouse all the time." Claim the unconscious intention to create that result: "I squabble with my spouse because I'm committed to squabbling with my spouse all the time." Notice your mind and body wanting to argue with this powerful assertion. But also notice the feeling of exhilaration when you finally own your unconscious intention. You're in the driver's seat.
Reflections inspired by our weekly faith sharing and fellowship.